How To Make Compassion Your Best Friend

How many times do you think about something that has happened in the past and believe that it defines who you are?   It could have been something you said, something you did (it sounded good at the time) or maybe it was something that you didn’t say or do but wish you did.

It’s so easy to be hard on ourselves and create a story to go along with it.   “I’m not smart enough, I’m not good enough….”.  You get the idea!

Who wants to get caught up in the loop of self-judgment?  I have no doubt that you want to get off that loop as fast as you can.  

What about trying a different approach? 

Sure this will take some practice but what about showing compassion to yourself instead of being so hard on yourself?

This does not come easy for most people including myself.  It was recently that I found myself in a situation where I said something that I later regretted.  Instead of being compassionate towards myself, the negative self-talk reared its’ ugly head.  When that happens, it’s hard to get myself out of the downhill spiral.  

As much as I understand the importance of compassion in my life, it’s not always my first thing I go to.

“If you want others to be happy practice compassion, If you want to be happy practice compassion.”

-Dalai Lama

Self-compassion can feel strange at first, especially if it has not been practiced in the past.   Keep in mind that it is a practice and the more you do it the easier it gets.

Practicing self-compassion will look different for each person.  There is no right way or wrong way to go about it.  Awareness and getting started is the first step in the right direction. 

Good places to start are treating yourself kindly without judgment, acknowledging challenges and letting them go, along with remembering that you are exactly where you need to be.  

Where in your life could you use some self-compassion?  Do you find yourself doing the same thing over and over again and wonder why you are so hard on yourself?

You know that you would never treat a friend the way you treat yourself.  What about trying to be your own best friend?  After all, you are the only person who will be with you your entire life. 

I would love to hear from you so feel free to comment below.  Should you have any questions or want to connect, you can reach me at

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