Recently something happened that challenged me to question if I’m as accepting as I believe I am.
With my new empty nest, I joined my husband on a business trip to Florida. While there, we took the time to head to the beach while visiting family on the Gulf Coast.
After taking a stroll on the beach, we plopped ourselves on the sand to do one our favorite activities…people watching. I don’t know about you, but I could spend hours watching people.
As we’re sitting there watching people of all shapes and sizes walk by, I casually said “I’m surprised that some people wear what they do.”
Just a few minutes later I realized how judgmental my words were. I consider myself a very compassionate and loving person so that’s why this hit me so strongly.
When I shared this with my hubby, we came to the conclusion that this came from my “conditioning” of what a person who wears a two-piece swimsuit “should” look like. Isn’t this what all the media tells us? It’s not about expressing our individuality, it’s about dressing in a way that is acceptable to others.
This “conditioning” goes against what I believe…that we are all unique and special in our own way .
This realization had me thinking about how many areas of our lives we have been conditioned to believe what is the “correct” way to be.
Later, I was having a conversation with a friend.She shared with me something she was considering doing. She questioned whether she needed to share with others what she was going to do and why. I gave her my opinion. It really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.
So easy to say…so much harder to live by!
With this new awareness, I question what to do with it.
How can I move forward in this world and break free of the conditioning by so many outside influences?
What I’ve come up with is that I am enough, just the way I am.
And you are too! I can break this conditioning by continuing to share this message and reinforce it for everyone.
It doesn’t matter what you look like. What matters is what lights you up. It doesn’t matter what other people think about you.
The best gift you can give this world is you being YOU! Nobody can do it as well as you can.
Just imagine what our world would be like if we all conformed to a specific list of expectations (what we’ve been conditioned to believe).
How boring would that be?!
Remembering that you are enough just the way you are can be filled with many ups and downs. Just when you think you’ve got this, something comes along to challenge your thinking. This thinking has been ingrained in us for a very long time.
The good news is that it gets easier. Like anything else you are learning, it takes time and practice.
How does this play out in your life? Do you have certain situations that challenge you to remember that you are enough (just the way you are)?
As always, should you have any questions or want to connect, you can reach me at firstname.lastname@example.org.