(Last November, I touched on this topic, but I feel it is important enough to revisit.)
Recently, I connected with my long distance bestie, and part of our conversation revolved around how easy it is to lose a part of yourself to other people. While our lives are different in many ways, I see a common theme between us.
Since we hadn’t connected for awhile, I wanted to hear the juicy details of her life. I’ve been married for 28 years, so it’s always fun to hear about her dating world (not that I want to go back).
While she sees how she could easily lose herself to a guy, I can see how I lost myself in my role of being a mom. (Being honest, I really had no idea who I was before heading into the world of parenting, so maybe I didn’t “lose” anything.) Instead of letting motherhood be a PART of who I was, it became ALL that I was.
Now I’m in the process of discovering who I am. I know that my true self is inside just waiting for me. As I peel back the layers of the artichoke (I know, most people go with an onion), I can see her waiting patiently. It’s almost as if she’s just waiting to say “Oh, there you are, I’ve been waiting for you!”
Are you tired of showing up as someone other than who you are? Losing yourself to the expectations of others? Discovering yourself is not an easy process.
However, our greatest gift to this world is showing up as ourselves. Let’s put ourselves out there, letting go of society’s expectations and knowing we are enough. While there may be things we want to change, I AM enough just as I am…and YOU are too!
It’s easy to say but not always easy to embrace.
Some days the journey feels more light filled than others. I do my best to accept the ebb and flow of life, instead of wanting it to be something other than what it is.
It’s a process…and I am here for you.
Where in your life are you struggling to show up as yourself? Let me know in the comments below.
As always, should you have any questions or want to connect, you can reach me at firstname.lastname@example.org.