Over the weekend the hubby and I had a chance to visit our youngest who is away at his first year of college. With wanting to have a better look into his world, he asked a friend to join us.
The conversation was good, the food not so much, but I was just happy to be in his presence. When I asked about how they met, the friend told us it was a rough start to their friendship, but after a long night of conversation between the two of them and a few other friends, he began to see my son for who he is (the person I know).
This conversation had me thinking how easily we judge another person before giving them a chance to show us who they really are. We may have been taught to not to judge a book by it’s cover, but how often do we actually do that? We are probably all guilty of a few snap judgments the first time we meet someone.
This lesson has presented itself to me a few times over the last year. I always try to remember a key takeaway, I really don’t know where someone is coming from, how their day started out, etc. at that moment.
All we know about someone else (unless they’ve showed us otherwise) is what we see through our lens of our perception, which is how we make sense of our world.
(Plus, they may not be showing us their true selves either. Take a peek back to last week’s blog post.)
Depending on a skewed perception can create many perceived limitations in the people we meet or the experiences we have. We may be making judgments without all the facts and miss out on a potential new friend or exciting new experience.
Regardless of how this plays out in your life, I challenge you to stop yourself when beginning to judge another person and see if you can get curious, curious about who they are as a human being and what their world may be like for them. And if you’re with that person, offer them a smile and open up to hearing and understanding more.
Do you find it easy to judge another person without knowing their story? Let me know in the comments below.
As always, should you have any questions or want to connect, you can reach me at firstname.lastname@example.org.