Do you ever feel like you’re running a race, and you’ll never get to the finish line? One obstacle after another gets in your way and keeps you from your final destination.
I’ve never done a Tough Mudder, one of those 10-12 mile endurance obstacle races, (and have no desire to do so!), but sometimes I feel like we’re going through the “Tough Mudders of life” when it comes to knowing we are enough just the way we are. We slog along through our lives getting beaten down by one obstacle after another.
You may have days when everything is going your way, and you don’t even think about your “enoughness.” Then, there are the other days. A few minutes checking out Instagram leads you quickly down the rabbit hole of compare and despair. Everyone’s life looks better than yours.
Your intentions were good, because you were curious what your “friends” were up to.
I know, I’ve been there.
Life can be feeling pretty good one minute, and the next you’re feeling a strong case of missing out (Hello FOMO!). You know what you see on social media is only what they want you to see, but you still continue to compare yourself to others.
It’s hard to accept our imperfect selves when we’re constantly being bombarded by all the “perfection” that we see on social media.
It’s just so draining!
Assuming deleting all your social media accounts is NOT an option, you can do some things to remind yourself that YOU are enough just the way YOU are.
A good start is giving yourself permission to be you. No one else is quite like you. You are unique with your own set of strengths. Not sure what your strengths are? Ask those around you who know you best. The quote “can’t see the forest for the trees” is so fitting when you’re questioning your strengths.
Once you have a list of your strengths , showing gratitude for them will increase your awareness and appreciation of them. Don’t be shy. I know you can do this! (Not sure how to practice gratitude? One way is a 5-minute journal I mention in this blog post.)
Just the practice of gratitude alone can be a game changer. It allows you to focus on what’s right in your life vs. the constant focus on what’s not right. Let’s appreciate the positive instead of focusing on the negative.
The TRUTH is that you are enough just the way YOU are, every single part of you.
You don’t need to look like someone else, wear clothes like someone else, or show up in the world like someone else.
You. Are. Enough.
This idea may sound fantastical, but just imagine if each and every day you woke up and your first thought was “I AM ENOUGH.”
How’s that for a different thought to start your day?
What is your first thought in the morning? Most likely your first thoughts are about how you didn’t get enough sleep or about everything you have to do today.
Since no one has an “Easy Button” for instant change, it’s up to you to decide you want your life to be different. Nobody else can do it for you.
Change is all about taking personal responsibility for YOUR life. Very empowering!
The good news is that you don’t have to go it alone. One way I work with my clients is to support them in remembering their “enoughness.”
This process is done by shedding the layers of who they are giving them the freedom to be themselves.
After all, do you really want to go through your life comparing yourself to others, or would you like to take a different approach?
When you’re ready to try a different way of “being,” let’s chat to see how I can support you. I have lots of tools in my toolbox to take you from where you are to where you want to be.
Not sure where you want to be? That’s where I get to use my “asking questions” superpower to uncover what’s waiting to be discovered. Together we’ll examine the real you and make a plan to let the knowledge of your strengths be your support for a better day.
When you’re ready to make the change, drop me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org.