Did you have the chance to read Moving Beyond Stuckness (Part One)? In that blog, I shared how many clients I’ve worked with have come to me from a place of stuckness. Their life felt somewhat dull, they could feel the desire for “more,” but had no idea what “more” is or how to get it.
To help them gain clarity about what is missing in their lives, I gently dive in with questions to see what we could uncover. I always love the look when they have an “aha” moment…brings me so much joy. 🙂
Once they have clarity about what is missing, we dig into what’s getting in their way of reaching their goals. Many times when I ask they have no idea. After all, if they already knew what was in the way, there would be a greater chance they would already have it.
Often what’s at the heart of being held back in our lives, are our stories and limiting beliefs.
You might believe that others are judging you, you’re not good enough, or there’s no way you can do (fill in the blank).
Stories are false narratives that are based on our experiences and how we see the world. It takes no time at all for a story to spin out of control.
Many times we don’t even realize we’re smack in the middle of a story. It’s possible you’ve been telling yourself the story for so long, you’ve come to believe it to be 100% true.
Even though getting lost in our stories is easy, it’s possible to move beyond them.
The starting place for any change work is awareness, and moving beyond stories is no different.
When we are aware and ready to make a change, anything can happen.
So, pull out your detective hat (magnifying glass optional), and let’s bust those stories.
The most important part about busting a story is to look at what’s really true. Not what’s “kinda” true, but what’s 100% true.
There’s no gray zone when it comes to stories.
Sure it takes time to work through our stories, but staying in the land of stories can lead to unhappiness, relationship issues, frustration, and many other things.
If stories had a twin, I believe it would be limiting beliefs.
A limiting belief is something you believe to be true that limits you in some way.
They create a negative impact on your life and hold you back from living your life fully.
Changing a limiting belief to one that is more empowering takes awareness that the belief is already there.
We cannot change what we are not aware of.
Similar to busting a story, ask yourself if the belief is true without a shadow of a doubt.
A few examples of limiting beliefs are:
“I’m going to fail, so why bother trying.”
“I don’t have enough time.”
“I am not worthy.”
“I don’t want people to think I am (insert your word here).”
Maybe you can relate to some of these.
Just like the stories we tell ourselves, limiting beliefs dull our sparkle in no time.
It may not be easy, but taking the time to bust stories and let go of limiting beliefs will allow your life to open up in ways you may never have imagined.
Enjoy the journey!!