How To Become A Story Buster

When I discovered The Adult Chair podcast by Michelle Chalfant, I knew I wanted to share it with you. I’m not sure about you, but I find podcasts a fun way to learn, grow as a person, and keep me entertained.

Michelle is a therapist and holistic life coach who uses a model called The Adult Chair. It’s a psychological understanding of our three primary selves: the inner child, the adolescent, and the adult.

In her practice, she uses actual chairs to help her clients understand how they come from different parts of themselves.

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Ready, Set, Take Time for SELF-CARE

Are you feeling it? That buzzing in the air?

Look around you. The holidays are in full swing…regardless of what you celebrate.

Do you feel like diving under the covers and staying there until the holidays (and all the stress that come with them) are long behind you? Shopping, cleaning, decorating, baking, hosting, etc., etc.–I’m exhausted just typing those words.

Our lives may never resemble a Hallmark Channel holiday movie (yep, they’re so addicting), but you can create a sense of calm in a season that is anything but.

That something is self-care.

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The Final Chapter

Just like a book has a final chapter, my Dad experienced his final chapter in this world.

It’s been an emotional roller coaster for me during this time. I was doing everything I could to stay present with what was ahead of me. As much as I wanted “what’s next” for him, I was already grieving what I was losing each day I spent with him while he was in hospice.

Watching his body decline more and more each day felt unbearable at times. When he rallied for a few days, I knew this was part of the process that would most likely be short lived…which it was.

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The Journey Continues (Part Two)

My dad was admitted to the hospice house for the second time. Throughout this journey we’re on, I find myself continuing to reflect on many life lessons along the way.

The greatest of these is the understanding that being vulnerable is not a weakness, but a strength.

In the past, I did not want to show that part of myself to the world. I was too concerned about what they would think. But with wanting to “feel all the feels,” I really don’t have a choice but to allow the emotions to flow.

By showing my vulnerability, I’m being an example to those around me. It’s okay to show up as yourself, to show everyone the real you. This does not always come easy to me.

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Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself

Do you find yourself using a word over and over again without giving it much thought? If you’ve been around teens (and beyond), you know their go-to filler word is “like.” “How was your day?” “Well, it was like Ok, but lunch was like great!”

(Side note…have you noticed how much the word “literally” is being used by teens? Adults are guilty, too. It is literally everywhere. See what I did there? Now that I pointed it out, you’ll literally start to notice it more. Sorry about that!)

What I keep seeing over and over again is how many times people (of all ages) use the word “should” without even giving it another thought. As a recovering user of the word “should,” my radar is always on. 😉

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Time to Dream Big

I’m not sure about you, but I love geeking out on all things personal growth. So when a friend recently shared a personal growth book she was listening to I was quick to check it out. The book is Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be by Rachel Hollis.

Between the title of the book and the fun cover, I was ordering my copy from Amazon in no time flat. (As much as I do my best to teach my kids the downfalls of instant gratification, I do love my Amazon Prime. Oops…)

The book takes a closer look at the lies we tell ourselves without even questioning them. Yep, our minds have been hijacked by all those negative subconscious thoughts again leaving us “overwhelmed and unworthy.”

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The Journey Continues

In a recent conversation with a friend, I shared a very personal life lesson. Her response was “I don’t know how open and vulnerable you’re willing to be in your blogs, but this is something worth touching on. So many of us are going through this.

I responded that I would go there, for myself and anyone else who could learn from what I’m going through. My personal tale is one I’m sure many can relate to.

I’m deeply immersed in watching the decline of my parents. It is one of the most challenging things I’ve ever gone through. It’s one that I knew was around the corner, but I had no idea it would get here so quickly.

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Let’s Get Real

Many of my conversations lately have revolved around the desire to have more meaningful conversations. People are tired of the lack of “realness,” hearing “I’m fine” way too often, and conversations that never go below the surface.

Do you also find yourself wanting to connect with a friend and share what’s in our hearts and on our minds?

Creating meaningful conversation is not always an easy thing to do. It requires showing up as yourself, being vulnerable, and letting go of expectations as to how the conversation “should” go.

It’s getting real about what’s going on in your life–all parts of your life, including the parts that you would rather keep buried to never be seen.

While you may feel safe keeping things tucked away, growth happens when we open ourselves up to being vulnerable with others. And to be vulnerable, you will need to be willing to share “your story,” aka what makes YOU who you are.

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Midlife Redefined

Recently, I discovered a podcast that spoke to me in so many ways. I’ve been listening to Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto for some time, but when I saw her podcast named Old Chicks Know Sh*t with Jennifer Arthurton, I knew I had to check it out.

I’m not an “old chick,” but I am in the second half of my life. So, I was eager to jump in and hear what they had to say. Elizabeth’s podcasts make me want to be a better person, and this one did not disappoint. It’s all about growth and learning for all of us, right?!

Jennifer is all about helping women in midlife see themselves differently. Too often, we hold ourselves up against the cultural idea of who we “should” be. Falling short of this ideal is very disempowering and causes us to doubt our inner power and wisdom.

Midlife can be a time of life that’s very freeing as we become more comfortable with who we are, but also challenging as some external identities get stripped away. For some of us, we become empty nesters, and our previous role of “mom” morphs into something different. For some, the active career woman starts to slide into retirement. While I have played other roles in my life, being a Mom has been front and center for a big part of my life.

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Making It Count

Did you read my latest blog “The Path to Vulnerability”?

In that blog, I shared how “feeling all the feels” is so important to bringing us growth and stepping more fully into our lives.

Little did I know when I wrote the blog that my Dad would be going into the hospice house for observation the next day after a severe breathing episode. He lives with COPD (along with my Mom) and is challenged on a daily basis with the simple act of breathing – something we easily take for granted.

This latest episode had me feeling like I was “feeling all the feels” on steroids. When I went to visit him in the morning at the hospice house, he looked so fragile and yet peaceful at the same time.

As I’m spending time being vulnerable, reflecting and doing my best to live with the uncertainty of what’s ahead, I’m thinking about how I want to live my life.

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