The Journey Continues

In a recent conversation with a friend, I shared a very personal life lesson. Her response was “I don’t know how open and vulnerable you’re willing to be in your blogs, but this is something worth touching on. So many of us are going through this.

I responded that I would go there, for myself and anyone else who could learn from what I’m going through. My personal tale is one I’m sure many can relate to.

I’m deeply immersed in watching the decline of my parents. It is one of the most challenging things I’ve ever gone through. It’s one that I knew was around the corner, but I had no idea it would get here so quickly.

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Let’s Get Real

Many of my conversations lately have revolved around the desire to have more meaningful conversations. People are tired of the lack of “realness,” hearing “I’m fine” way too often, and conversations that never go below the surface.

Do you also find yourself wanting to connect with a friend and share what’s in our hearts and on our minds?

Creating meaningful conversation is not always an easy thing to do. It requires showing up as yourself, being vulnerable, and letting go of expectations as to how the conversation “should” go.

It’s getting real about what’s going on in your life–all parts of your life, including the parts that you would rather keep buried to never be seen.

While you may feel safe keeping things tucked away, growth happens when we open ourselves up to being vulnerable with others. And to be vulnerable, you will need to be willing to share “your story,” aka what makes YOU who you are.

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Midlife Redefined

Recently, I discovered a podcast that spoke to me in so many ways. I’ve been listening to Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto for some time, but when I saw her podcast named Old Chicks Know Sh*t with Jennifer Arthurton, I knew I had to check it out.

I’m not an “old chick,” but I am in the second half of my life. So, I was eager to jump in and hear what they had to say. Elizabeth’s podcasts make me want to be a better person, and this one did not disappoint. It’s all about growth and learning for all of us, right?!

Jennifer is all about helping women in midlife see themselves differently. Too often, we hold ourselves up against the cultural idea of who we “should” be. Falling short of this ideal is very disempowering and causes us to doubt our inner power and wisdom.

Midlife can be a time of life that’s very freeing as we become more comfortable with who we are, but also challenging as some external identities get stripped away. For some of us, we become empty nesters, and our previous role of “mom” morphs into something different. For some, the active career woman starts to slide into retirement. While I have played other roles in my life, being a Mom has been front and center for a big part of my life.

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Making It Count

Did you read my latest blog “The Path to Vulnerability”?

In that blog, I shared how “feeling all the feels” is so important to bringing us growth and stepping more fully into our lives.

Little did I know when I wrote the blog that my Dad would be going into the hospice house for observation the next day after a severe breathing episode. He lives with COPD (along with my Mom) and is challenged on a daily basis with the simple act of breathing – something we easily take for granted.

This latest episode had me feeling like I was “feeling all the feels” on steroids. When I went to visit him in the morning at the hospice house, he looked so fragile and yet peaceful at the same time.

As I’m spending time being vulnerable, reflecting and doing my best to live with the uncertainty of what’s ahead, I’m thinking about how I want to live my life.

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The Path to Vulnerability

What comes to mind when you hear the word vulnerability? Do you embrace it or do you feel uncomfortable at just the thought of it?

According to Brene Brown, vulnerability is basically uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. Don’t you feel exposed just reading that? “Emotional exposure” are two words that scream rawness.

But being vulnerable is where growth happens. If we go through our lives always requiring certainty, avoiding risk, and not allowing our emotions to be expressed, we are missing out on the richness of life.

While living with uncertainty and taking risks can be challenging to me, I’m most challenged by allowing my full emotional expression.

I know I’m not alone here.

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What Are You Willing To Do?

Recently, I came across a book that grabbed my attention. The book is Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life by Gary John Bishop. The subtitle really intrigued me.

I’m not sure about you, but I find myself living in my head waaaay too much. Do you find your mind running the show? Do you over-think things or over-analyze too much? How can we “get out of our heads”?

Among the many great concepts in this book, one jumped off the page for me…the concept of taking responsibility for our own lives. Okay, I get this isn’t a new concept, but the way he goes about it is (at least for me).

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You’re Stronger Than You Think

What do you see when you look at your life? Do you find yourself observing your life and seeing in yourself all the ways you don’t measure up?

Have you created an impossible standard for yourself? Sometimes, we create an insurmountable metric that we will always fail to meet.

You may feel that you’re not enough in some area of your life, and when you’re in this mindset your life can feel less than desirable.  

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Go Have FUN

While the hubby was away on a golf trip, and my youngest visited a friend in Cali, I decided to do an experiment. I could have easily thought “how much can I get done while they’re gone?” but not this time.

Getting very intentional about what I wanted my “free time” to look like set the direction for the weekend. I didn’t want to be feeling any resentment that they’re away having fun while I’m stuck at home with the mundaneness of life. I could have so easily have gone this route.

I already had a beginner’s yoga workshop scheduled and a monthly lunch with friends planned. I decided to add on a pedi and dinner with my oldest son. Hey, if I was going to do this experiment, I was going to go all the way.  

What was my experiment?

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Just “DON’T” Do It

How many times do you wake up in the morning feeling overwhelmed by your “to-do” list before your feet even hit the floor? Your mind is already racing through your day when all you want to do is dive back under the covers and let the world know that you’re not “adulting” today.  

It just feels like way too much!

As much as Nike reminds us to “Just Do It,” I’m going to go out on a limb and suggest the exact opposite.  

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How To Be More Productive (Not What You Would Expect)

Did you read “You Are More Than What Gets Done”?

In that blog, I shared how it’s easy to fall into the trap of defining our self-worth based on what gets done in a day, but we are so much more than that.

Recently, I came across a video from Anthony Ongaro (aka Break The Twitch) that has me thinking about productivity in an expanded way.

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