Things Are Not Always As They Appear

Over the weekend the hubby and I had a chance to visit our youngest who is away at his first year of college. With wanting to have a better look into his world, he asked a friend to join us.

The conversation was good, the food not so much, but I was just happy to be in his presence. When I asked about how they met, the friend told us it was a rough start to their friendship, but after a long night of conversation between the two of them and a few other friends, he began to see my son for who he is (the person I know).  

This conversation had me thinking how easily we judge another person before giving them a chance to show us who they really are. We may have been taught to not to judge a book by it’s cover, but how often do we actually do that? We are probably all guilty of a few snap judgments the first time we meet someone.

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You Are More Than Your Highlight Reel

Recently, I had a conversation with a friend about how hard it can be to be ourselves. I knew I had my latest blog topic.  

She’s the kind of friend who listens deeply and can point out so many parts of our conversation that would be “blog worthy.” I know who to call the next time I’ve been staring at a blank page for way to long!  

The gist of our conversation was about how challenging it can be to be ourselves when we live in a world where we are constantly bombarded by social media where everything is perfect and everyone has perfect (or almost perfect) lives.  

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Are You Practicing Self-Judgment or Self-Compassion?

Just when it seems like I’m getting a handle on all of this “personal development,” something else shows up for me.

Through the work I’m doing in therapy, I’ve discovered that I have lots (and lots!) of self-judgment.  I don’t know a single person who is free of self-judgment, but that knowing doesn’t make it any easier for me.  

Don’t you find those negative self-judgments to be very sneaky at times?

Before you know it, we’re in a downward spiral.  It’s almost as if our minds have been hijacked by someone else.  

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Ready To Dig Deep?

As the days are getting longer, and the birds are getting louder, I’m excited for what’s ahead. Even though there may still be a snowfall or two ahead of us, this time of year has me ready to let go of the old and bring in the new. 

Although I am ready to organize (I love organizing!) and let go of things that no longer add to my life, I can feel that it’s so much more than that. 

Sure, I want to create more “physical space” in my life, but when I think more about it, what I’m really desiring is open space in all areas of my life to get to know myself better.

Maybe you feel the same way too!

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You. Are. Enough. Part 2.

(Last November, I touched on this topic, but I feel it is important enough to revisit.)

Recently, I connected with my long distance bestie, and part of our conversation revolved around how easy it is to lose a part of yourself to other people. While our lives are different in many ways, I see a common theme between us.

Since we hadn’t connected for awhile, I wanted to hear the juicy details of her life. I’ve been married for 28 years, so it’s always fun to hear about her dating world (not that I want to go back).

While she sees how she could easily lose herself to a guy, I can see how I lost myself in my role of being a mom. (Being honest, I really had no idea who I was before heading into the world of parenting, so maybe I didn’t “lose” anything.) Instead of letting motherhood be a PART of who I was, it became ALL that I was.

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Happy New Year – New Year, New Instagram

I wanted to thank each of you for taking the time over the past year to read my latest blogs. With so much noise competing for your attention, I want you to know how much I appreciate you being in this space!

While I have enjoyed writing my blogs (and hope you have enjoyed reading them), I’ve recently discovered something that has really peaked my interest, micro-blogging on Instagram.

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Human Being or Human Doing?

It’s here…

The holiday season has quickly come around. It’s the season of way too much stress, spending that can easily get out of control, and maybe a few too many holiday cocktails.  🙂

But it’s also filled with lots of delicious food, beautiful decorations, and reconnecting and making memories with family and friends.    

Going into the holidays, I always have this grand plan to finish all my shopping by Thanksgiving. I’ve yet to see that happen. It’s easy to get derailed by life swirling all around me.

I may not be able to slow down time, but I can choose how I relate to it.

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You. Are. Enough.

Recently something happened that challenged me to question if I’m as accepting as I believe I am.

With my new empty nest, I joined my husband on a business trip to Florida. While there, we took the time to head to the beach while visiting family on the Gulf Coast.

After taking a stroll on the beach, we plopped ourselves on the sand to do one our favorite activities…people watching. I don’t know about you, but I could spend hours watching people.

As we’re sitting there watching people of all shapes and sizes walk by, I casually said “I’m surprised that some people wear what they do.”

Just a few minutes later I realized how judgmental my words were. I consider myself a very compassionate and loving person so that’s why this hit me so strongly.

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It’s Finally Here!

It’s been a long time in the making, but I’m excited to share with you that my website has been updated. Not a major rewrite, just some needed enhancements.

Updating the website was not an easy process for me. How did I want it to look? What was I going to say? What’s the best way to show up as myself? How can I show my playful side?

So many things to think about and that doesn’t even include the ever important…what to wear!  🙂

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I Would Like To Give You Permission

Recently, I was talking to one of my closest friends and the topic of wanting more in our lives came up. She shared with me how she really wanted more out of her life, but felt ashamed with her desire for more. 

From the outside, her life looked really good. She was in a supportive marriage, she was financially secure, and all of her basic needs were taken care of.

Yet she still had this desire for something more. It was a yearning that was becoming stronger and stronger, but she kept telling herself that she “should” be happy with her life as it is.

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