Early Lessons From A Garden

Have you been wanting to try something new? Possibly learn to cook a new type of food, how to play an instrument, or what about taking a belly dancing lesson? I hear it’s a great core workout.  

Well, this year the hubby and I decided to venture into the world of gardening – the veggie kind. We really have no idea what we’re getting into, but know we want the outcome to be lots of delicious hand picked veggies.  

It can’t be too hard, right (insert winking face)?

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Living More With Less

There’s an obsession in our country that goes way beyond the time we spend on Facebook and Instagram.  

More than likely it’s happening in your house too.

What I’m talking about is our endless accumulation of “stuff” – the stuff that can own us more than we own it.  

This past weekend, our family took part in the annual neighborhood garage sale. I was feeling the weight of having too much stuff in our lives.This year was going to be the year of letting it all go. That’s what we wanted, but it was challenging to let go of things even though they were only taking up space. I would start thinking “What if I need…?”, “What if the kids can use this?”, etc.   

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What Zone Are You In?

Did you have a chance to check out last week’s blog?

In that blog, I shared how your self-worth is so much more than what gets done. With the “to-do” list always growing like grass on a summer day, there’s a non-stop onslaught of things to do.  

We may not get it all done (and that’s okay), but what about getting your things done in a different way?  

My mentor George Kao says “Your state of being is the most important thing.” This realization can become a game changer when you are “believing” that getting things done is the most important thing (like most people do).  

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You Are More Than What Gets Done

Did you get your “to do” list done today? How do you feel? Who are we without productivity being the metric of our self-worth?

I’ve had many conversations with people who want their self-worth be defined by more than what gets done. But when we live in the world of “crazy busy,” it’s hard to find the space for that to happen.

The truth is that the “to-do” list is never ending.  

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Just. Be. You.

If you’ve been following my blog, you know I’m all about supporting you to create a better life for yourself. One of the ways I hope to support you is through sharing “my story” so you can see you’re not alone.  

I have no doubt you’ve gone through the ups and downs of life feeling like you’re the “only one” going through that particular experience. We all have, and it can be a lonely place. You may be wishing for someone who would “get you” and what you’re going through.  

I’ve been there – deep in the trenches of whatever was coming up for me at the time. That lonely place is amplified if we are hiding it from others.

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Things Are Not Always As They Appear

Over the weekend the hubby and I had a chance to visit our youngest who is away at his first year of college. With wanting to have a better look into his world, he asked a friend to join us.

The conversation was good, the food not so much, but I was just happy to be in his presence. When I asked about how they met, the friend told us it was a rough start to their friendship, but after a long night of conversation between the two of them and a few other friends, he began to see my son for who he is (the person I know).  

This conversation had me thinking how easily we judge another person before giving them a chance to show us who they really are. We may have been taught to not to judge a book by it’s cover, but how often do we actually do that? We are probably all guilty of a few snap judgments the first time we meet someone.

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You Are More Than Your Highlight Reel

Recently, I had a conversation with a friend about how hard it can be to be ourselves. I knew I had my latest blog topic.  

She’s the kind of friend who listens deeply and can point out so many parts of our conversation that would be “blog worthy.” I know who to call the next time I’ve been staring at a blank page for way to long!  

The gist of our conversation was about how challenging it can be to be ourselves when we live in a world where we are constantly bombarded by social media where everything is perfect and everyone has perfect (or almost perfect) lives.  

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Are You Practicing Self-Judgment or Self-Compassion?

Just when it seems like I’m getting a handle on all of this “personal development,” something else shows up for me.

Through the work I’m doing in therapy, I’ve discovered that I have lots (and lots!) of self-judgment.  I don’t know a single person who is free of self-judgment, but that knowing doesn’t make it any easier for me.  

Don’t you find those negative self-judgments to be very sneaky at times?

Before you know it, we’re in a downward spiral.  It’s almost as if our minds have been hijacked by someone else.  

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Ready To Dig Deep?

As the days are getting longer, and the birds are getting louder, I’m excited for what’s ahead. Even though there may still be a snowfall or two ahead of us, this time of year has me ready to let go of the old and bring in the new. 

Although I am ready to organize (I love organizing!) and let go of things that no longer add to my life, I can feel that it’s so much more than that. 

Sure, I want to create more “physical space” in my life, but when I think more about it, what I’m really desiring is open space in all areas of my life to get to know myself better.

Maybe you feel the same way too!

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You. Are. Enough. Part 2.

(Last November, I touched on this topic, but I feel it is important enough to revisit.)

Recently, I connected with my long distance bestie, and part of our conversation revolved around how easy it is to lose a part of yourself to other people. While our lives are different in many ways, I see a common theme between us.

Since we hadn’t connected for awhile, I wanted to hear the juicy details of her life. I’ve been married for 28 years, so it’s always fun to hear about her dating world (not that I want to go back).

While she sees how she could easily lose herself to a guy, I can see how I lost myself in my role of being a mom. (Being honest, I really had no idea who I was before heading into the world of parenting, so maybe I didn’t “lose” anything.) Instead of letting motherhood be a PART of who I was, it became ALL that I was.

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